Why Sales is just like dating

Why sales is like dating

Let’s set the scene. You are in a bar and the good-looking person is over there.

So, choose which person you are.

Person A.

Things run through your head: they won’t want to talk to me, they are too busy, I’m not quite right for them, I don’t want to disturb them, I don’t want to pester them, now isn’t the right time to approach them.

Person B.

See all that person A does plus thinks – I’ll be brave, when the friend is nearby and if I feel its right I’ll casually give the friend my number to give to her.

Person C.

There’s the hot person, I’m going to hang around where the hot person is. I’m going to be accessible and available. If there’s then an opportunity that arises naturally I can grab it. If not, I’m making an opportunity to strike up a meaningful conversation.

Person D.

There’s the hot person, I’m going in!

Sound familiar to sales?

Let’s set the scene. You are at an event and the ‘target’ client is over there.

Sales person A.

Things run through your head: they won’t want to talk to me, they are too busy, I’m not quite right for them, I don’t want to disturb them, I don’t want to pester them, now isn’t the right time to approach them.  No one likes to be approached.

(CK input: limited belief that everyone else is the same as you).

Sales person B.

See all that person A does plus thinks – I’ll be brave, If I feel it’s right  I will leave my card.

(Ck input: the intention of ‘I’ll just leave a card’ will give a high probability in ‘just leaving a card’)

Sales person C.

There’s the hot target prospect, I’m right or them, they are right for me.

I’m going to hang around where the hot prospect is. I’m going to be accessible and available. If there’s then an opportunity that arises naturally I can grab it. If not, I’m making an opportunity to strike up a meaningful conversation.

Person D.

There’s the hot prospect, I’m going in!

So,  a few observations here.

  1. Your limited belief is what will make you or crush you. If you know your solution will benefit them then your ‘state’ will be in one of 100% congruency, positive, ‘can do’, and what follows your thinking is your behaviour – so your body language and what you say and how you say it.
  2. Know your target clients, know their names and have an opener ready. It’s better to be prepared and not have an opportunity then have an opportunity and not be prepared.

 

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